Among the risks of operating in the fashion industry, like I said in the past, is the heartbreaking scarcity of straight men. It’s a dire, dire world out there, where queens reign and models prosper. So besides asking my devoted pals to set me up, I have actually resigned to online dating. Last year I would’ve died if anyone discovered I was on among those websites, and now it’s simply like any other distracting pastime. I find it incredibly amusing. The profile photos are excellent fun– every man appears to ski, snowboard, love boats and do severe sports regularly– and it’s always a pleasure to see a brand-new “wink” in my mail box. But it’s not all fun and video games. On-line dating is serious business nowadays and can be a ruthless awakening. Here’s a couple of things I have actually found out:
1. Be careful of men who take “selfies”. This means they either have no buddies, no family, no life, or no video camera. If there isn’t a single soul in their close vicinity who could take a picture of them, not even the local butcher or even worse, their own mom, you may have a social pariah on your hands and you must not even consider sympathizing with them. It’s simply plain incorrect.
2. Beware of men in their late 40s who have never been wed, without kids. Consider it: how is it that a person, at his age, with a great task, a practical set of teeth and, according to his profile, a “generous, fun, easy-going, daring” life style, has never ever had the ability to sway a lady to marry him? Does he work such long hours he’s too tired to get it up? Is he a managing maniac? Does he have a devastating shoe fetish? In either case, it’s not kosher. In my opinion you’re much better off with a separated person with kids. He’s most likely made some mistakes however a minimum of he attempted.
3. Be gentle with people who have unrealistic expectations. I often sit and scream at my computer screen, wrecked by disbelief, when yet another delusional guy contacts me: “What on earth are you believing????” (I’m talking people with ankle bracelets and neck tattoos, 27-year old kids who deal with their mom, and males in Stetson cowboy hats …) I advise either neglecting the demand, or just responding to: “Sir, please ask yourself. If we were at a bar, would you come up to me and ask me out? If the response is no, then you ought to not think you have unique powers just because we remain in cyber area.”
4. Ensure you cross-reference their public age with the wrinkles in their profile pictures. There’s a great deal of older guys who alter their age for worry of being inundated with messages from 50-year old homemakers. I’ve heard it lot of times and some even caution you: if you are a 50-year old homemaker, don’t contact me. Truth!
5. One of the video games I play when I look at people’s profiles is to photo myself inside their pictures. If you can’t imagine yourself socializing with their buddies at an outdoor Beer Garden in Hoboken, or stretched on a vinyl, flesh-colored couch next to their poodle, I would state, don’t require it. It’s bad enough you’ll stumble upon a picture of your future mother-in-law one day and in fact need to handle it.
6. When a male writes to you and you have no interest in meeting, you are confronted with an unbearable dilemma: do I compose back and pleasantly explain why I am not keen on joining him for a flight on his moped? Or do I merely disregard him and pretend I missed the message? In the former case you take a substantial threat. He may not take no for a response and end up being protective. And trust me, there’s absolutely nothing worse than being put in your place by a shot-down guy. So I advise the latter.
7. Be careful of the man who believes that publishing pictures of himself surrounded by beautiful, scantily-dressed women is a blessing. I had an interaction with one such delightful man a few months back. I warned him that no woman, specifically not me, would take him seriously if he firmly insisted on daunting her with photos of girls in swimsuits and thongs. I was truly worried for his future and informed him he ‘d never ever discover the woman “who likes to cook and learn new things”. He didn’t quite get that though and addressed: “I simply got laid last night, so I think I’m doing alright.”